I can speak to this. I have major social anxiety and clinical depression. Havent had a job in about 3 years. It's a huge struggle to keep a steady work flow with these type of conditions. Trust me on this that the subject is terrifying for her as it is annoying for you. And to be honest she will always be like that. You cant change it. So if it's not for you now it would be better to just leave the relationship. Also it just seems like from what I read you dont really care too much of this person?