I hope this helps anyone with problems. I was struggling with the same issues in this thread, I was stuck on the Launcher Action Set. This happened when I attempted to connect to my already running game (I started the game on my PC, then Connected with my Steam Deck in-game). When I launched the game through my Steam Deck (press Connect on Steam Deck to then start the game on my other PC), the action sets were chosen correctly and I was able to play.
My host PC's platform is Linux.