JaysInc Posted January 15, 2015 Share Posted January 15, 2015 And by "child disciplinary actions," it's just a fancy saying of whoopping your child's behind to teach then discipline. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
OniDax Posted January 15, 2015 Share Posted January 15, 2015 Nothing wrong with it as long as it's not overboard, and overboard means you start leaving permanent marks. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Absens Posted January 15, 2015 Share Posted January 15, 2015 Shimmering blight Oh wait... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
xRufus7x Posted January 15, 2015 Share Posted January 15, 2015 The worst physical punishment I received was my parents flicked my ear and I was a generally well behaved child and turned out to be a pretty descent member of society. Generally I see it as not necessary, but I am neither a parent or a psychology major that specializes in behavioral modification. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Morec0 Posted January 15, 2015 Share Posted January 15, 2015 Nothing wrong with it as long as it's not overboard, and overboard means you start leaving permanent marks. ^ Kids are stupid, but everyone responds to good bit ol' pain. Give them the paddle once in a while when they warrant it and that'll stop them fast. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dalawantahr Posted January 15, 2015 Share Posted January 15, 2015 Nope, I don't @ss whoop my kids cause I don't have an awful messed up children. But when the times needs me to, I will. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
011100110110000101101101 Posted January 15, 2015 Share Posted January 15, 2015 It's all fine and dandy with the wooden spoon. Just don't break the kid's arm. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rakshal Posted January 15, 2015 Share Posted January 15, 2015 (edited) There is nothing wrong with spankings and such but I shouldn't go overboard like smacks to the face, punches, ect. I've heard that positive reinforcement works better though, then again I'm only 17 with no kid so what do I know. :P Edited January 15, 2015 by Rakshal Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Krion112 Posted January 15, 2015 Share Posted January 15, 2015 I was smacked around as a kid when I acted out of turn. The thing is though, is it happened only a few times and then I learned that it wasn't the pain I should be fearing, but that there was a consequence for disrespectful action. I feel, however, that this learning method doesn't work for everyone. And then there are the parents who sometimes take it to far. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Beef-DeathLegacy Posted January 15, 2015 Share Posted January 15, 2015 (edited) I don't think it's good. When you hurt kids and then tell them what they did was not good, they won't really try to understand ur reason for saying so as much as they'd rather not want to get hurt again. I strongly believe in making them understand the why rather than skipping it and then just letting your hand do the explaining instead of your mind. Explaining things to kids can be a pain due to their naivete and innocence. I believe, but I'm not an expert to claim this, that kids will grow into people who obey the law due to fear of getting retribution rather than because they think that it's the right thing to do so and that it yields the best results for everyone. In general, I don't really like violence against children. Heck, even in games i find hurting kids deplorable. Edited January 15, 2015 by Beef-DeathLegacy Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rakshal Posted January 15, 2015 Share Posted January 15, 2015 (edited) In general, I don't really like violence against children. Heck, even in games i find hurting kids deplorable. I'm gonna sound like a really bad person, but I installed mods in Skyrim that allowed me to kill kids. Most of the kids in that game needed to die! >:o Edited January 15, 2015 by Rakshal Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
(XBOX)Grihaly Posted January 15, 2015 Share Posted January 15, 2015 Some kids need a good smack when they step out of line... Just sayin'. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
connorpistol Posted January 15, 2015 Share Posted January 15, 2015 It's usually fine, plus corpal punishment Is THE ONLY way to teach special children manners, but few have the heart to do it. I just say ANYONE can do this Spit on people = OWWWWWWWWWWWW!!!!!!! I'm gonna sound like a really bad person, but I installed mods in Skyrim that allowed me to kill kids. Most of the kids in that game needed to die! >:o You are perfectly normal. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cipherid Posted January 15, 2015 Share Posted January 15, 2015 (edited) My sister is 14 and I think she still needs a flippin' smack with her attitude. Then again she is a teenager, I was the same at her age (and I used to get a smack round the back of the head ;A; ). 21 and now I'm mostly well behaved now. Mostly. I think it's needed, but not to the point of breaking a child's arm or whatever. I see kids around here that are A******s with a penchant for stealing, because their parents let them do what they want with no consequence and no amount of simple verbal telling off will do a thing. Edited January 15, 2015 by Tyrala Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Beef-DeathLegacy Posted January 15, 2015 Share Posted January 15, 2015 I'm gonna sound like a really bad person, but I installed mods in Skyrim that allowed me to kill kids. Most of the kids in that game needed to die! >:o Guess what, I was also thinking of skyrim when I was typing the post =))))) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
(PSN)Pharen Posted January 15, 2015 Share Posted January 15, 2015 (edited) I grew up with the wooden spoon, the solid as **** plastic spoon, smacks, punches, leather belts, and even the steel capped boots. I don't have a problem with physical discipline, so long as it is not taken too far. Some times words are not enough, some people don't know how to discipline there child or are too afraid to do so, this in turn is bad for the child as it can turn them into what you are trying to avoid in the first place. I won't tell you how you should discipline your child, that is for you to figure out, but I will quote one thing: "Do not raise your children the way you were raised, for they are born for a different time" - In other words raise them the way you think they should be raised. Edited January 15, 2015 by (PS4)Pharen Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
KennPhoton Posted January 15, 2015 Share Posted January 15, 2015 I think an occasional meeting with a belt or sandal is good for a child. Especially if they like to have attitude. I understand being a teenager means that you're rebellious and all, but even as a teenager I know I shouldn't talk back my parents, and I'll beyond screwed if I do. "Do not raise your children the way you were raised, for they are born for a different time" Tell that to my dad... lol Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JaysInc Posted January 15, 2015 Author Share Posted January 15, 2015 steel capped boots Damn, I thought the ways I got punished were harsh. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MagPrime Posted January 15, 2015 Share Posted January 15, 2015 (edited) ^ Kids are stupid, but everyone responds to good bit ol' pain. Give them the paddle once in a while when they warrant it and that'll stop them fast. Some kids it's not even the pain, just the act. I grew up with the wooden spoon, the solid as **** plastic spoon, smacks, punches, leather belts, and even the steel capped boots. I don't have a problem with physical discipline, so long as it is not taken too far. Some times words are not enough, some people don't know how to discipline there child or are too afraid to do so, this in turn is bad for the child as it can turn them into what you are trying to avoid in the first place. I won't tell you how you should discipline your child, that is for you to figure out, but I will quote one thing: "Do not raise your children the way you were raised, for they are born for a different time" - In other words raise them the way you think they should be raised. Wow, did our parents share notes on corporal punishment? Having been on the receiving end of that level of punishment, I wouldn't be able to do that to any child. The farthest I've ever gone was spankings, and even then it was more about the contact than the pain. It's the thought that pops up "Wow, I really messed up, they're actually spanking me!" Than you get kids like one of my nephews who doesn't respond to pain like a normal person. He laughs! That's when you have to find an alternate punishment, like running around the backyard for an hr or handing them a bag full of bricks and telling them to hold it at chest height for 10 minutes. EDIT: I'd like to point out that things like "beatings" should be a last resort. Talk to the kid, explain why they shouldn't do the thing. If they keep doing, talk to them and explain why they're getting spanked or "beat" Edited January 15, 2015 by Noamuth Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
OniDax Posted January 15, 2015 Share Posted January 15, 2015 I wouldn't use a paddle or wooden spoon. A switch, however... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
OniDax Posted January 15, 2015 Share Posted January 15, 2015 (edited) I don't think it's good. When you hurt kids and then tell them what they did was not good, they won't really try to understand ur reason for saying so as much as they'd rather not want to get hurt again. I strongly believe in making them understand the why rather than skipping it and then just letting your hand do the explaining instead of your mind. Explaining things to kids can be a pain due to their naivete and innocence. I believe, but I'm not an expert to claim this, that kids will grow into people who obey the law due to fear of getting retribution rather than because they think that it's the right thing to do so and that it yields the best results for everyone. In general, I don't really like violence against children. Heck, even in games i find hurting kids deplorable. Well, I got whooped with switches, and I perfectly understood why. You explain why they are getting punished, but that doesn't mean you remove the actual punishment. As well, what you're talking about, growing into people who obey the law, doesn't come from just punishment. The parent has to actually teach the child. No parent should punish their child if they haven't already taught their child that what they did was wrong and what is the right thing to do. Edited January 15, 2015 by AntoineFlemming Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
fishworshipper Posted January 15, 2015 Share Posted January 15, 2015 Use what the kid responds to. Some kids just flat out don't respond to pain. Instead, reward them for doing good. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Agentcheese Posted January 16, 2015 Share Posted January 16, 2015 Im against it. for me it seams like the kids may end up fearing the parents for what they did even if there is only a tiny amount of fear. I also think that if they misbehaving or doing something that you don't want just explain to them why you don't like it, not matter how young they are. they might be smarter then you think and understand the situation better then you expected them to. if you show respect for them for long enough they might start showing it back to you. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
connorpistol Posted January 16, 2015 Share Posted January 16, 2015 From what I remember of my REALLY young days (only bits and pieces) was that I could never "respect" my parents. I just knew that obeying them and getting on their good side was the best choice. That why my brother still thinks I'm a suckup. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MagPrime Posted January 16, 2015 Share Posted January 16, 2015 (edited) Im against it. for me it seams like the kids may end up fearing the parents for what they did even if there is only a tiny amount of fear. I also think that if they misbehaving or doing something that you don't want just explain to them why you don't like it, not matter how young they are. they might be smarter then you think and understand the situation better then you expected them to. if you show respect for them for long enough they might start showing it back to you. Almost the same thing a woman said to me at the park when I was a teenager. After she said this, her son came over and started throwing rocks and bark at her. She just sat there asking him to stop and explaining that it was wrong. He laughed the entire time and then ran off to throw rocks and bark at other people. Don't get me wrong, some kids it works on. I have 7 nephews and they all react differently to certain kinds of discipline. There are a couple that just don't get it until they have their hands slapped or get spankings, a couple that you can reason with and the other three are a mixed bag. But at some point you have to realize that just talking to them isn't going to work and then change tactics. Not punishing a child, either with talks, time out or spankings, is teaching them that there are no repercussions to their actions, so there's no reason for them to even attempt to behave and be a "good" person. It's a pretty lame thing to cripple your kid like that. Edited January 16, 2015 by Noamuth Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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